Tell him/her about your day, your problems, things that make you happy, things that bother you. One of the most extreme feelings you could feel for someone may result either in a disaster or something worth celebrating for.
But the question remains intact, when do you say I Love you, better yet, who says it first?
Well, there’s risk involved: How will the other person react or respond? Will he say “I love you, too”? Will she say, “I’m just not there yet” or worse, will you simply hear, “Thanks”?
When the relationship is new, commitment and future plans are not discussed right away and things usually take some time. But when is the right time to say how you feel? The fear of being turned down is so huge that the feeling is usually kept within.
So, who takes the plunge, and when?
Believe it or not, men are more likely than woman to say “I love you” first (Harrison & Shortall, 2011). Yes, while people think women are more apt to say these words first, the actual empirical evidence, shows that men do it first—at a rate of about three-to-one.
This rate has been corroborated in other work exploring this same question: Men confess their love first much more often than women (Ackerman, Griskevicius, & Li, 2011).
Some evidence suggests that men start to contemplate declaring their love 42 days sooner on average than women (Ackerman et al., 2011).
Although men might voice “I love you” first more often, cross-cultural research suggests that women are consistently more emotionally invested in their romantic relationships than men, especially in more gender-egalitarian societies like the U.S. (Schmitt et al., 2009).
This motivates a question: When women and men say “I love you,” do they mean the same thing? Are women saying “I love you” in reflection of their emotional engagement, or something else?
Taken together, when “I love you” is on the table, it seems useful to evaluate if you and your partner are on the same page about what these words mean.
By considering the motives at play and each of your goals, you could be in a better position to understand what this transition point might mean in your relationship.
Source: Psychologist Today.