by Sumaira Shiraz
Our society comprises of the people who possess different mindsets, in accordance to which they treat the members of the society or the people around them. If we look over the current situation of our country, violence is on it’s peak. From the time, we rouse till the night ends, we continue to hear every possible bad happening which had been never expected before.
Rape of children or women, unemployment problems, suicide attempts, killing of people, domestic violence and many other things have just become a part of our daily activity. Every channel, newspaper and online browsing keeps on informing us about such things.
But, if these all things have become a threatening part of our society and we continue to condemn it, than why blaming the victims, who are being victimized from such things.
When a women is victimized of rape or domestic violence, our society is the one to blame the girl or the women by labeling her with accusing words. Where does it come from? Does the girl, who has been victimized asked for this. No! that’s not the real concept. The people who are accommodated in this society blames the victims to make themselves distant from an unpleasant occurrence. People reassure themselves by telling them that they are not like the girl, so nothing wrong could happen with them. Why does the society always thinks that, to be raped is more shameful, than being a rapist.
Is this the real concept of how things work? .. No! It’s not. It does not depend on the girl only of she is carrying herself in the society or community, but the mindsets of those people who think women are just materialistic and can be used in every possible way they like. Sometimes, rape, sometimes the in-laws, who try to bound women with allegations and sometimes dowry problem. All such problem are encircling women to be victimized.
Victimization is not only limited for women . but men are also a part of this taboo. Now the question is how? .. Men, who are labelled as the supporters of the family are being pressurized due to the economy problems. Research states that many heads of the families have killed all their family members only because they cant afford living in this high cost economic era. They are unable to arrange meal for their family members.
Recently, a man killed his wife and his child Abdullah, only because he could not afford to arrange meal for at least one time a day for his family members. Likewise, a mother killed her two children, only because she could not suffer from the pain and weep of her children, when they are hungry.
Research states that, suicide rates have been continuously increasing since past years. There is 50-60% increase in suicide attempts, whereas the reason for attempting suicide for women is the victimization and torture they face from the society and for men the reason becomes unemployment and low grades in exams.
Reality is totally different. Abuse is a conscious choice made by the abuser, but not the one who is being victimized. The basic help the society can do so is not to provoke such comments for the people who are being victimized. The society should indeed fight against the abusers, instead of blaming the one who itself is a victim.